While sitting here in the den, with the lights off, playing on the computer, it occurred to me that I ought to say a few things about Fathers, since this is the day that we celebrate them.
A very wise man told me as a young person that nearly any male can father a child, but it took a real man to be a Father. Over the years, the my appreciation of the truth in this statement has continually grown. When I first became a father I was young and too dumb to know what I didn't know. Now that I'm older and less ignorant, I can see that he was correct. Life and fatherhood have tempered me into the man that I am.
Being a true, good father requires the love and assistance of a wonderful wife. I'm blessed to have Marilyn who has been a rock for more years than I care to think about. It also requires courage to face the unknown and un-thought-of challenges that crop up while raising your children. It requires you to sacrifice some of your dreams for the betterment of those who are still dreaming. It requires a lifetime of hard work, sometimes at a job you dislike, to provide for those children who you helped bring into the world. It requires you to love without reservation, even during those Bill Cosby moments ("I brought you into this world, and I'll take you out of it and make another one just like you!") that are certain to occur from time to time. And it requires Faith and help from God and places where you didn't ever expect to find help.
There is also a terrific up side to fatherhood. You get to play with little kids, and watch them grow into strong, responsible adults. You get to show them all the neat stuff their Mom would disapprove of (insert big grin here). You get to go camping with them, fret over their campfire antics, and wonder if you remember enough first aid to stop the bleeding from the anticipated accident with the ax. You get to build (and wreck) go-carts, ride bikes, become a Den Leader, drive them to where ever it is they need to be, and you get to impart whatever wisdom you picked up in your life to them, not by preaching, but by example. You get to watch your blessings multiply through the joys and challenges that having children bring.
God has blessed Marilyn and myself with 4 children (they're all from Lake Wobegone where all the children are exceptional :) ). I can see that they've all learned these lessons well, and that the fathers (and mothers) among them have exceeded their teacher. I hope that one day they will all remember me as I remember my Father, as someone who cared for and loved them, their families, and their Mother with all his heart.
Thanks, guys. It's been a great ride so far.
God bless you all.
Happy Fathers Day Dad. You and Mom are truly the most amazing people. I have tested and push your patience to limit WAY more times than anyone should ever have to endure and I thank yall for not "taking me out of this world" even though you more than likely felt like doing it. I turned out ok and I could have done it without all the love and strength that you gave me. You have taught me so many things and I am still learning (scary thought huh?). Thank you for everything that you do for me and mainly....Thank you for being my Dad.
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Dad. You've been an amazing father and I hope that you know that. I know, as a Brockmann male, that it's not always easy to express your feelings about how you feel about those around you. And that it's not easy to admit that you're not strong enough to be a parent and leader of a family alone. And that you have to make sacrifices.
ReplyDeleteEven though it ain't easy, thank you for sharing all of these things. You've got a lot of kids and grandkids to be proud of for your sacrifices. I think that its remarkable that through all my years growing up that I never knew of the things that you wanted, but could not pursue. That says a lot about you. I'm proud for you to be my dad. Love you!